Let Others Be and The Real Love

Do not find fault with others. If they behave wrongly, there is no need to make yourself suffer just because of that. If you point out to them what is correct and they refused to practice accordingly, leave it at that.

When the Buddha studied with various teachers, he realized that their ways were lacking and incorrect, but he did not disparage them. Studying with humility ad respect, he benefited from his relationship with his teachers, yet he realized that their systems were incomplete. Still as he has yet to become enlightened, he did not criticize or attempt to teach them the otherwise.

After he found enlightenment, he respectfully remembered those he had studied with and wanted to share his new found knowledge with them.

Real love is wisdom. What most people think of as love is just an impermanent feeling. If you have a nice taste everyday, you will soon get tired and fed up with it all. In the same way, such love eventually turns into hatred and sorrow. Such worldly happiness involves clinging and is always tied up with suffering, which comes like the policeman following the thief.

Nevertheless, we cannot suppress nor forbid such feelings. Instead, we should not cling or identify with them but should know them for what they are. Then Dharma is present. One loves another, and yet eventually the beloved leaves or dies.

To lament and think longingly, grasping after that which has changed, is suffering, not love. when we are at one with this truth and no longer need or desire, wisdom and the real love that transcends desire fill our world.

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